When I found out I was going to have a little girl, I was really excited! I thought about the fun we would have shopping, dressing up, drawing pictures, gymnastics, dance class, and all the other fun little things little girls love to do. The past couple weeks have been anything but fun with our little Izzy. My mom took Isabelle over night last night to give her some one on one love and attention that I think she feels she is missing out on at home. Lately she has been extremely defiant and mean to her brothers. She doesn't seem to care about what her consequences are for her choices. If you take something away, she says fine. If I spank her, she has an amazing ability to shake it off like it didn't hurt. She doesn't like soap in her mouth, but I want to make sure I use that to discipline her mouth. Her sassiness has reached a record high for her, and she has mastered using the word NO.
I understand that she is 2.5 and she might be entering the terrible 3s. I feel like a failure when she acts like this. She has those sweet moments when she loves to hug and kiss me and the boys, and in a minutes change, she is hitting Andrew on the head, and running and hiding from me when I call for her. She has an independent spirit and is very intelligent! I don't want to crush her spirit, I just want to channel it into something good, and show her how to interact with her brothers in a loving way.
Our life has been very busy lately, filled with stress, me working more, going, going, going, and I think she probably feels some of that stress. I love my little Bear so much- and I wish I could have a one on one session with the Supernanny or Dr. James Dobson. We will find out later today if the break was good for her, I know it was for me.
Hang in there Stephanie! I can't wait to come home and hang out with the new little bear :) I miss you all.
ReplyDeletewww.nogreaterjoy.org
ReplyDeleteStephanie,
ReplyDeleteI feel your pain! My 3 1/2 year old has made me feel like a failure on a daily basis here lately. He can be as sweet as anything, but more times than not I'm finding myself doing nothing but discipling him left and right. It KILLS me that he is behaving this way because I feel in so many ways it is because I have failed and he knows exactly how to get under my skin. I love him dearly but I long for the obedient little boy he used to be. He was sick yesterday and when I talked to my mom and sister I told them, "I know he's sick because it is 1:30 and he hasn't gotten in trouble once today!" It was funny, but at the same time not so funny. I will pray for you to have a suffienct amount of God's grace to deal with your little one. Just know that you are not alone in this! =)
I feel your pain. Julia turned the infamous "2.5" 3 months ago and it seems like most days she is not the sweet honeybunches that I used to know. I often wonder how a child can throw as many tantrums as she does and not be completely wiped out by 10am. Thanks for sharing your thoughts...it makes the rest of us "moms of imperfect children" know that it isn't just our child, and definitely not our parenting. I'm praying that this will pass for you and Izzy.
ReplyDelete